Is celebrating birthdays forbidden? Why is it frowned? Isn’t it just simple fun and enjoyment?
We
only invite friends and have a meal. Aren't we even allowed to
celebrate anything? We only exchange gifts! Are exchanging presents
improper?
We
always encounter these types of questions in our day-to-day life. Most
of the people argue that neither celebrating ‘birthday’ is mentioned in
the Quran nor our Prophet (pbuh) ever expressed anything about? So what
is wrong with it?
Anyway,
the genuine question is why do we celebrate birthdays? And therein lies
the real discussion. Since it has now become a custom and everybody is
doing it, so we feel socially obliged to follow it.
And
what do we do on the occasion? Bake a cake, put on candles for every
year of the child's age, and blow the candle and make a wish. Are any of
these acts un-Islamic?
In
fact, history of birthday observance can be traced back before the rise
of Christianity. In pagan culture, it was believed evil spirits visited
people on their birthdays. To protect the person having birthday from
the evil effect, people used to surround him and make merry. A lot of
noise used to be created in such parties to scare away the evil spirits.
Some
of the popular Birthday traditions and symbols that we see today
originated thousands of years ago. Some believe the tradition of
birthday cake was started by early Greeks who used to take round or moon
shaped cake to temple of Artemis - the Goddess of Moon.
Greeks
used to light candles on the cake because of a religious belief that
Gods lived in the sky and lighted candles helped to send a signal or
prayers to the God.
Germans
are said to have placed a big candle in the center of the cake to
symbolize the light of life. It is believed that blowing out all candles
in one breath brings good luck.
In ancient Egypt, the pharaohs ordered businesses to close on their birthdays and gave enormous feasts for hundreds of servants.
Further, in ancient Greece, wealthy males joined birthday clubs composed exclusively of men who shared their birth date.
In
Persia, noblemen observed their birthdays by barbecuing an ox, a camel
and a donkey and serving hundreds of small cakes to the celebrants.
In
ancient Rome, the emperor gave huge parties in honor of his own
birthday, which included parades, circuses, and gladiatorial combat.
But
have we ever heard or read if our Prophet (pbuh) or anyone in the
Islamic history celebrated their own or their children’s birthdays?
It
is a well-established fact that neither the Prophet (pbuh) did
celebrate his birthday at all during his lifetime nor did he ever order
it to be observed. Neither did he ever teach such to his Companions nor
did he ever care to practice it.
Even
the rightly-guided Caliphs and all of his Companions did not celebrate
it. They were the most knowledgeable of the people concerning Sunnah and
they were the most beloved to the Prophet (pbuh).
They
were also the keenest upon following whatever the Prophet (pbuh)
brought. Thus, if one is supposed to celebrate one’s birthday, this
would have been made evident at their time. Similarly, neither anyone of
the scholars of the best generations celebrated their birthday nor did
they order it to be followed.
In
present times too, the birthday is celebrated same like before. In
fact, the birthday cannot be imagined to be celebrated without cake and
candles. Friends and relatives sing the birthday song with the name of
the person before blowing out the candles and slicing of the cake.
Well,
people with good income can afford all such expenditures, but what
happens here, is the one whose provisions are strained, borrows money or
goes beyond his capacity to throw a grander party than he can afford.
In
addition, everybody tries in giving or preparing the best gift to his
capacity, but the people who cannot afford either hide away from the
invitation, do not attend, or go beyond their means in getting this
present.
Besides
all this, Islam does not permit extravagance. It is stated in a Hadith
the worst gathering feast is the one in which the poor and deprived are
left out and the wealthy are only invited.
But in contrast, in these gatherings, music, singing, video filming and other un-Islamic and forbidden acts take place.
Celebrating
birthdays is not a big sin in Islam. The only question to be answered
here is who we are following: Allah and His Messenger (pbuh) or the
traditions of the non-believers?
As that could not be part of religion or a wholesome Islamic life, the Quran clearly states thus:
“O
Prophet! Be careful of (your duty to) Allah and do not comply with (the
traditions of) the unbelievers and the hypocrites; surely Allah is
knowing wise”. (33:1)
The
need of the hour is to reflect upon the age-old pagan tradition that
has been followed and decide if the celebration of birthday fits
logically or morally into the scheme of your life. Is birthday something
to be happy about?
When
it is someone's birthday, one year of his/her life has decreased, and
not increased. As such, what intelligence is there in celebrating and
showing happiness when a year has decreased in one's life?
Obviously
if we look at the beauty of Islam, every day is a great day and a
blessing from Allah…Subhanallah. So celebrate every day and always say
Alhamdulillah.
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